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Over-giving is when you prioritize other people’s needs and wants above your own, often neglecting yours entirely.
Cue: Self Worth!
You give more than you need or want to because, on a subconscious level, you feel like giving is the only way to get yourself seen. That’s because visibility = love and attention for most people. There’s only one problem…
Over-givers operate from an energy of achievement. It means that you’ve learned that the only way you get love or attention is by what you DO, rather than who you ARE.
Did your parents reward you or pay attention to you when you DID something good (i.e. good grades?) That’s the achievement energy in action!
Did they reward you for expressing your emotions and crying when you were hurt? Probably not, but this dysfunctional dynamic taught you that you wouldn’t be paid attention to when you needed support.
As a result, you may have learned to pipe up if you want to get what you really want…love and attention.
Friend, if this sounds like you, you are caught in a DOING cycle rather than a BEING cycle. Take your seat on the struggle bus because this is the quickest way to burnout.
The only thing that needs to change is you taking responsibility for over-giving to people who are taking, burning yourself out in the process.
There are ways to ditch the over-giving and activate your personal power with confidence.
Make a list of things that you WANT, including how you want to feel. Don’t judge this, instead just be curious and get to know yourself better.
Make a list of things that you NEED, including how you need to feel. Don’t judge this, instead just be curious and get to know yourself better.
Start looking at areas of your life where you might be exhibiting these feelings and behaviors and areas that need some adjustment. At first, just remain observant and make a list of areas that are off, or aren't flowing.
These 3 easy exercises will help you become more aware of areas in your life that need some adjustment and how you can get more in touch with where you may be over-giving so you can stop that cycle.
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sheet to help you with this exercise!
Over-giving is actually a symptom of abandoning yourself because you may not feel worthy or deserving of what it is you want. 💔
Here’s how you can get out of this cycle:
Part 1: Rewrite your story. A story is the life you’re living, which is made up of everything you believe. Rewrite this from the inside out and you’ll ditch fearful, limiting beliefs that keep you from fully trusting yourself and your choices.
Part 2: Ignite and claim your personal power. Your power is your sexuality, creativity, inspiration, passion, purpose, and happiness! When you learn to go within and listen to your heart and soul, the next steps become crystal clear and you tackle them with confidence.
Part 3: Create healthy, yet beautiful boundaries. When boundaries are healthy, it means they’re good for everyone. By taking responsibility for how you invest your energy and cultivating beautiful boundaries, you stay focused in your lane. By slaying the cords that keep energy vampires tethered to you, exhaustion is replaced with new energy and inspiration!
I’m a Women’s Empowerment Coach, Spiritual Mentor and Akashic Records expert.
Welcome, fellow over-giver! As they say, when the student is ready, the teacher appears. I know over-givers quite well because I lived as one for almost 41 years until I finally ended that cycle in a healthy, well balanced way.
If you’re truly ready to live a life that isn’t dependent on what others want from you and shift into a woman who powerfully takes care of herself and others with more energy and joy, then get on a call with me. I will take you over the 3 shifts you need to make to stop the over-giving and activate your true feminine power so you can manifest what you love, rather than what you fear!
I only work with women who are truly ready to rise up into their authentic power. If that sounds like you, click the button above to book a chat with me and let’s get you out of this draining cycle! You are worthy of everything you desire, Angel!
Why Work With Me
I used to work 90 hour weeks in corporate america for $70k a year. My life was very full, yet void of happiness, fulfillment and joy. When I was nearing my fortieth birthday, I started feeling the angst of burn out, deflation and desperation to escape my own life. I was restless and bored. I felt that things would never change and if they could, I couldn't possibly imagine how. I discovered the root cause of the dysfunction and learned how to create happiness from the inside out without depending on the outside world or the people in it to satisfy me.
Now I help highly sensitive spiritual women who want to ditch the overcompensation and feeling like who you are and what you do is never enough so you can skip the line and consciously create your fairy tale life in 90 days.
It doesn’t need to take you forty years. You can step into the vibration of a Spiritual Coach and Master Healer that has walked the difficult path, through the fire of transformation to show you how to do the same in much less time.
If you’re open to seeing yourself in a whole new light, you can create a whole new world for yourself. A world that loves, accepts and appreciates you for who you are and how you choose to show up.
NOT EVERY COACH:
Has helped nearly 1,000 clients and students heal from the inside out.
Has 8+ years of experience healing the root cause of the emotional wound that causes people to feel like they are never enough (and the results to prove it!)
Has stopped settling for less and learned how to balance the dualities of give and take to create an abundant life and business.
Will have healed themselves on a level that has transformed their relationships from constant over-giving to giving in a balanced way.
Mastered the akashic records and the process of clearing limiting beliefs to start manifesting wants and needs rather than fears.
Has an award winning documentary on female sexuality that shows women what’s possible when you learn to claim your sexuality.
Helpful Resources:
Read our blog on the Abandonment Core Wound. This blog will help you identify whether you have the abandonment core wound and what to do about it.
Check out our YouTube videos on the topics we covered:
How to stop people pleasing.
Abandonment wound.
Empathic Abuse of Power.